Why I Write
black and (A)broad: traveling beyond the limitations of identity is the doctoral dissertation I wanted to write. It’s the sum of all the desires, struggles and realizations I’d lived up until the moment of publication. It’s the meaning I gave to the traumas and tragedies of my childhood.
Through writing and telling my life’s stories, I got control of the one thing in power to control: my emotional response to recurring memories. It was painful, but doesn’t pain accompany the cutting open of old wounds? It was worth it because I have peace with and have released the past.
How I Lead
Qualifying as a Certified Professional Coach from iPEC has changed the way I approach living my life. I am in constant awareness of what I’m thinking and how I’m feeling. I am conscious of the energy underlying the actions I take, which are always based on my thoughts and feelings. This is the essence of energy leadership.
I aspire to bring inspiration into everything I do. I find power in knowing what is important to me. I am confident setting and upholding boundaries. I can say “no” without the urge to explain myself. This is the result of energy leadership.
Who I Dare to Be
Not all of my thoughts are pure. I sometimes struggle with so-called negative emotions. I am a stay-at-home mom who works parttime as a life coach. I yell at my kids and argue with my husband. I might choose an afternoon Netflixing instead of working.
I’m also strong and courageous. I’m very affectionate, loving and loveable. And if I do say so myself, I’m pretty funny.
I no longer try to mask my “bad” side. Nor do I judge my “good” face to be more worthy of love. I dare to show and accept all of me.